Well..."To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible deception;
it is an eternal loss for which there is no reparation, either
in time or in eternity"
"Love is only good when you're not getting any..."
People just want to be good at something. It can be love, but it doesn't have to be, it can also be something else.
either/or
aren't there any paperback-editions in English?
there's a paperback of either/or published in the Penguin Classics series.